Hmmm... I believe that what you're experiencing is what happens at the cusp between writing and becoming a reader of your writing. It's also about whether you want this writing and reading to remain private, or whether you want to share it with people. The two can be interconnected, but are not always, i.e. you don't have to send your poems to a publisher or even show them to anyone else at all. As soon as you bring in a potential audience, everything changes slightly and you start thinking about your poems more critically. Ultimately, you have to make the decision about how you want others to understand or assess the poems - as pieces of your experience (in which case, you might just give them to family and friends) or as pieces of writing which are also pieces of your experience (in which case, you might get publishers involved.) You might want feedback about the emotional meaning of the poems for you and for others, or you might want feedback about the more critical aspects of the poems - content, form, etc. I personally believe that both these ways of thinking about writing are equally as important. But you need to work out how you feel about your writing, what's important to you and how you'd like it to be read. You may need to give yourself some time to do this...